Do you find yourselves speaking different languages?

Couples therapy for Adults in New York & South Carolina

Sure, sometimes things get a little lost in translation but constant miscommunication can make even the most rock-solid relationships feel like they’re held together with rubber bands. It’s exhausting, causes distance and makes it nearly impossible to feel connected intimately.

Having the same conversations over and over again?

One or both of you might be asking, “What happened to those two individuals who met and couldn’t get enough of one another?”

Sometimes, therapy sessions are the perfect space to untangle those miscommunications, iron out the creases, and restore some harmony.

Ok, but….

…we’ve tried this before and it didn’t work.

…I’m already in individual therapy and don’t want to do couples therapy.

…I’m not sure my partner would even want to do this.

…what if my partner brings something up that I wasn’t expecting?

Your connection seems to keep hitting the same rough patch or maybe this is the first time and you don’t know what to do. Whatever it is, you are starting to notice it - the lack of intimacy, the struggle in your communication and an overarching feeling that you’re merely coexisting rather than truly living and enjoying your time together.

The idea of openly discussing your relationship struggles, whether with one another or with a third party, exposing raw emotions and possibly facing difficult truths can create a sense of discomfort or apprehension. You might even feel that seeking external help is a departure from privacy or independence. That’s completely valid. It's understandable to have reservations about such a significant step, especially when it involves the well-being and future of your relationship.

While the decision to engage in therapy is deeply personal, I encourage you to reflect on the potential positive outcomes that could arise from this experience. It's an opportunity to navigate challenges, learn effective communication strategies, and rediscover the bond that brought you together initially.

I want you to know that your concerns are not uncommon. Many couples grapple with similar worries before taking the step toward therapy. The decision to explore couples therapy is a significant one. It isn't a reflection of failure, but rather a proactive step toward healing and growth in your relationship. It is a courageous move toward understanding each other better and rebuilding what's been missing. It’s a testament to your commitment to your relationship's well-being.

The only thing scarier than starting therapy is missing out on a fulfilling life with your romantic partner.

Couples therapy can be immensely beneficial, but there are various reasons why a couple might avoid seeking this type of support:

  • Some partners might fear facing the underlying issues within the relationship, preferring to ignore or suppress them rather than confront the discomfort in therapy. One or both of you might be afraid that I, as the therapist, will “point the finger” at the “wrong party”.

  • Therapy isn't always about fixing something that's broken. It can also be a proactive step to improve the relationship. It shows a willingness to work on issues, enhance communication and deepen understanding, rather than giving up on the relationship.

  • Therapy offers a safe space to openly discuss concerns and feelings. It's a way to address issues that might be causing strain or discomfort in the relationship. More likely than not both of you want the same thing but are not feeling heard.

  • Dealing with betrayal or infidelity in a relationship is an immensely challenging experience and the process of forgiveness is a deeply personal journey. I can help to guide you through some of these tough conversations, attacking the feelings that surface head on.

  • I’d be lying to you if I told you homework wasn’t a part of this process. I always try to be mindful that everyone has responsibilities in their personal lives but it’s important to work on the things we talk about in session OUTSIDE of the sessions. That’s what will build towards tangible growth together.

  • The number of sessions required varies depending on your specific concerns and goals as well as how quickly you made the decision to start therapy. Sometimes couples come to therapy after years of building resentment. Working through things might take some time. I will work with you to create a personalized treatment plan and continue to check in throughout the process.